Thursday, January 23, 2014

Congratulations to a Future Mom-To-Be



"There is a person in the world that wants you more than anything. She will do her best, she will make some mistakes, and you will only get her for an unknown time. But she will love you more that you could ever imagine. When that person becomes a mother, so much is possible!"  

A young lady, who served as the youth minister at our Parish announced last week that she was excepting her first baby with 
her new husband.

My heart warmed when I read her news and thought how exciting 
the next several months will be for her. It made me think back to when I first found out I was pregnant with my son.  The excitement, the nervousness, the joy, and all the feelings that come with the news, "You are going to have a baby!"  
Those few words would change my life ... forever!

With my first pregnancy, I had all the morning, afternoon and evening sickness and it lasted to almost the sixth month. Then I had terrible back pain for the last two months. Was it an easy pregnancy? Absolutely not, but I wouldn't changed any of it for the world. I had a healthy baby boy who changed my life.

When your baby is placed in your arms, the emotion is so overwhelming. Describing how you felt at that moment is different for everyone and sometimes hard to find the right words. Magical and Miraculous are the two that come to my mind.  At the moment that you become a mother, whether it is giving birth to a child or perhaps adopting a child, you are instantly changed ... for life! Your thoughts are never alone, you will think about your child or children with everything you do.

So for Megan, an expecting new Mom, I thought I would share some tips that my family and friends shared with me and I still cherish all these years later.

  • Cherish this blessing from the Lord and Praise Him. 
  • Keep a journal of your pregnancy; write notes or even a poem to your child. Track your progress and how you are feeling at the different stages. 
  • Ask family and friends who are mothers about things you are unsure about. Moms have all been there and their knowledge is the greatest of all.
  • Love the changes you will go through during your pregnancy.
  • Have patience and accept any help that is offered. 
  • Enjoy every magical moment of your journey!
Your pregnancy is a time of reflection and growth, and Moms everywhere will share in your joy and excitement. Treasure this time, your life will never be the same. Congratulations and all of my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband!  God Bless You All.


Moms, share any tips you have for this Mom-to-Be

Friday, January 10, 2014

THIS MOM CAN reach that top step, "Yes, I did it!'

Welcome Back Moms and  T.G.I.F.

Today is Day six of the 24-Day Challenge and I have stayed completely on track. I wasn't going to weigh myself until Day 11 (after the 10 Day Cleanse), but yesterday, I had to check my weight. So glad I did, because on Day 5, I have lost 4 pounds. I know it is just getting the bad stuff out but I will take it!

One of my goals was to stay accountable during my weight loss journey, and that is probably the thing I struggle the most with.  I walk by the bowl of Hersey Kisses and think, 'Just one won't hurt me.'  But one, turns into two, turns into ...

DETERMINATION will get me to that top step and I will say, "Yes, I did it!"  

For the lucky few, weight loss and staying at an ideal weight comes naturally. For the rest of us, constant accountability is the key to long-term success. I found a great article about staying Accountable for Weight Loss, so this week I am going to share it with anyone else that might be struggling with accountability on your 'New Year, New You' Journey.


10 Ways to Stay Accountable for Weight Loss


1. Make Friends With Your Scale

You might have a love-hate relationship with your bathroom scale — normal daily fluctuations can be maddening when all you want to see is 1 fewer pound. But it can still be a very useful tool, says J. Graham Thomas, PhD, an associate professor at the Miriam Hospital and Brown Medical Center in Providence, R.I., which runs the National Weight Control Registry. In fact, 75 percent of the 10,000 successful dieters enrolled in the registry weigh themselves weekly, and 38 percent do so every day — giving the scale a resounding endorsement for weight-loss maintenance. “Weight creeps up over time, so our members find that this is the best way they can keep track and make immediate corrections in their diet,” Thomas says. 

2. Use A Tape Measure To Stay On Track

A very exacting way to measure success is with a cloth tape measure, says Sue Gebo, RD, assistant professor at the University of Connecticut. By measuring your waistline, hips, bust, and even thighs and calves, you can record tangible progress toward your goal with the kind of detail that a scale can’t give you. Because muscle takes up less volume than fat, you’ll see inches drop, even when there might not be a corresponding change on the scale. It’s very empowering — and encouraging — Gebo says. 

3. Use A Food Diary

“I’m a huge fan of ‘tracking’ when it comes to food because I think it is an excellent tool and is easier than people think,” says dietitian Melissa Dobbins, RD, a spokeswoman for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. She notes that you can list the foods or calories you’re eating, or simply mark an “X” on the calendar for every day you met your daily goal to, say, eat healthier snacks or avoid nighttime eating.
One accountability trick she recommends is to write down what you plan to eat before you eat it, not after. “The power in this is that it really increases your awareness more and makes you think literally twice about a food before you eat it,” she says.

4. Save Your Skinny Jeans

Some people keep a pair of "fat pants" as a tip-off to weight loss that starts to creep back, but this technique isn’t effective for everyone. You might be better off keeping a different pair of pants handy — ones you know you always want to fit into, says Cristina Harder, RD, of the Loyola University Health System in Maywood, Ill. “Some people like to keep a pair of pants that is not far from their goal around so they know when they reach it. As for having a pair of fat pants, I have all my clients get rid of anything like that once they reach their goal so they know that there’s no going back.”

5. Go Steady With Your Diet BFF

Having a 'we're in this together' buddy not only reinforces accountability, but also provides positive weight-loss and weight-maintenance motivation. You can call your buddy if you find yourself wavering, and you won’t be inclined to hit the snooze button and skip your morning walk if your friend is depending on you, too. “You can even get a little competition going, and have one buddy give a reward to the other if they stay on track — just be sure it isn’t a hot fudge sundae,” Gebo suggests.

6. Keep the Big Picture in Mind

Setting a specific goal can be a very effective weight-loss strategy. “One of the most common reasons people come to see me is because they are working towards a goal, like their child is getting married, or they have got a reunion coming up, or they have gotten divorced and they want to start dating again,” notes Daisy Merey, MD, PhD, a bariatric medicine specialist in West Palm Beach, Fla., and author of The Merey Way to Healthy Weight. However, she notes, be careful not to focus so much on a single transitory milestone that your plan falls apart afterwards. “I had one patient who slimmed down because she was going on a cruise, but then she ate like mad on the cruise, and it all came back," Dr. Merey says. Set permanent objectives, too, such as living longer or even feeling more comfortable in your clothes. 

7. Chart Your Fitness Feats

Experts agree that physical activity is key to maintaining weight loss, and one of the best ways to stay on track is to keep a fitness log. It can be as simple as marking an “X” on a calendar on days you exercise — it’s motivating to see a chain of Xs that you won’t want to break. Or opt for a more sophisticated record of accountability, noting each time you do strength training and aerobics. “At the end of the week, I have my clients tally it up," Dobbins says, "and they are usually very encouraged to find they did more exercise than they thought." 

8. There's An App For That

Ever wish you had a drill sergeant who could put you through your exercise paces? You might not be able to afford a personal trainer who pushes you to complete reps, stick to your weight loss diet, and set new goals, but you can have a virtual one, courtesy of one of the hundreds fitness apps available. Dobbins likes MyFitness Pal, Lose It!, and SparkPeople, to name just three. 

9. Push Yourself  With A Pedometer

Walking is one of the easiest exercises around, and with the right motivation you can add to your daily tally. An inexpensive pedometer is a great accountability aid that can prompt you to forge further ahead to reach fitness goals. “We strive for people to get to 10,000 steps a day, which is about five miles,” Harder says. “That may seem like a lot, but if you have a pedometer and you see that you’re at 8,000 steps, you’ll be more inclined to put on your sneakers and head out after dinner for one more walk.” There are even apps that can turn your Smartphone into a pedometer, including a free one from the Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, which is affiliated with the Harvard Medical School. 

10. Create Your Own Rewards Program

Losing weight and maintaining that ideal weight is a JOURNEY, Harder says, so she recommends that her clients set up little rewards along the way to keep them on the right path. “Maybe it’s a size goal, a weight goal, or an inches goal — the trick is to reward yourself along the way," she says. "It’s another way of staying accountable.” It worked for one of her clients who was a bartender and realized that drinking was adding unwanted calories to her diet. Harder says the woman "decided not to drink, so, after a certain number of days, she got a massage or facial or went to see a movie.”


If you have anything that has helped you on your journey that can inspire other Moms, please feel free to share.

      Have a great weekend, Moms!




Sunday, January 5, 2014

My Journey ~ I Choose To Be Me!

I am no expert Blogger and to be honest, I started the THIS MOM CAN (TMC) blog hoping to inspire other Moms to share life stories, achievements or disappointments and encourage Moms along the way. It has started very slowly and I haven't reached a great amount of Moms but doesn't the saying go, 'All Great Things Start Small?'  Over the month of December, I reflected on what I have learned in this short time about websites, blog pages, social media and where I want to go from here.        
Today, I have decided to share with you the one thing that has held me back in so many ways since becoming a Mother: my weight.
I hope that you will follow along with me in my journey and hopefully it will help inspire you if you are on one as well.


Just typing the words and looking at them; my weight! For this Mom, it is something I just don't talk about, but think about every day. As a kid, I didn't have to think about my weight, I was a very active kid and it was just easy.  As I got older, I started my career, got married and had kids. I learned how hard it is to do all the things I need to do and keep a focus on ME! For 20 years, I lost that focus. 


I worked a job where I started my day at 2:00 am and finished around 12:00 pm. I had both of my kids while working at this job and as you Moms know; new Moms are very sleep deprived. I usually got about three hours of sleep at a time. When I slept for five hours, it felt like I had slept for ten. Each year, during my annual doctor exam, he would say, "Everything starts with sleep, you can not function without seven to eight hours every night."  If it was only that simple.  My weight was the last thing on my mind. 


Being a mother is the best thing that every happen to me and the kids inspire each and every day. How can I inspire them? How can I inspire another Mom or anyone for that matter who might be struggling with weight?


Blogging puts it all out there; no hiding and no excuses. This is going to make me accountable in every sense of the word.



On December 31st, I shared with you my three goals for 2014.  Goal #1 starts TODAY, January 5th, 2014.  Be Accountable, Push Myself, and Stay True To Myself!  
Three things, I will live by this year.  

Today, I started the 24 Day Challenge with Advocare.  Last year, I had completed the Challenge twice with great results, lost 22 inches and 35 pounds. But then, the Holidays came. I was busy and didn't work out and definitely didn't watch what I was eating. School Holiday parties, get-togethers with family and friends, shopping and wrapping gifts, and the Holiday food, oh man, The Holiday Food; cookies, fudge and everything you can dream of chocolate.  I maintained my weight for the most part, only putting on five pounds, but I needed to lose a lot more weight. Five pounds seems like fifteen.


This time around, my husband, Ryan is joining me on my 24 day Challenge. We started today and this will be the first time that he has done the Challenge and I am not sure if I am beyond excited or more worried.  We have been married for 16 years and he has been behind me in everything I have tried but this time around, he is walking BESIDE me on my journey. Pushing me along the way and celebrating in every milestone. Will he get better results than me? Will that upset me or motivate me? Only time will tell but let's go with the latter, MOTIVATION! 


I am going to share with you my journey, the many UPS and the several DOWNS. I did not share my goal weight at this point but will along the way. I will post where I found motivation and the struggles I face along the way.  I am going to post pictures, quotes, and inspirational things with my posts.You may love some, you may not, it would mean a lot to me to get any encouraging words from you along the way! I am a self-doubter but in this year of self reflection, I am hoping to overcome it. I will overcome it!   I Choose To Be ME!