Thursday, January 23, 2014

Congratulations to a Future Mom-To-Be



"There is a person in the world that wants you more than anything. She will do her best, she will make some mistakes, and you will only get her for an unknown time. But she will love you more that you could ever imagine. When that person becomes a mother, so much is possible!"  

A young lady, who served as the youth minister at our Parish announced last week that she was excepting her first baby with 
her new husband.

My heart warmed when I read her news and thought how exciting 
the next several months will be for her. It made me think back to when I first found out I was pregnant with my son.  The excitement, the nervousness, the joy, and all the feelings that come with the news, "You are going to have a baby!"  
Those few words would change my life ... forever!

With my first pregnancy, I had all the morning, afternoon and evening sickness and it lasted to almost the sixth month. Then I had terrible back pain for the last two months. Was it an easy pregnancy? Absolutely not, but I wouldn't changed any of it for the world. I had a healthy baby boy who changed my life.

When your baby is placed in your arms, the emotion is so overwhelming. Describing how you felt at that moment is different for everyone and sometimes hard to find the right words. Magical and Miraculous are the two that come to my mind.  At the moment that you become a mother, whether it is giving birth to a child or perhaps adopting a child, you are instantly changed ... for life! Your thoughts are never alone, you will think about your child or children with everything you do.

So for Megan, an expecting new Mom, I thought I would share some tips that my family and friends shared with me and I still cherish all these years later.

  • Cherish this blessing from the Lord and Praise Him. 
  • Keep a journal of your pregnancy; write notes or even a poem to your child. Track your progress and how you are feeling at the different stages. 
  • Ask family and friends who are mothers about things you are unsure about. Moms have all been there and their knowledge is the greatest of all.
  • Love the changes you will go through during your pregnancy.
  • Have patience and accept any help that is offered. 
  • Enjoy every magical moment of your journey!
Your pregnancy is a time of reflection and growth, and Moms everywhere will share in your joy and excitement. Treasure this time, your life will never be the same. Congratulations and all of my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband!  God Bless You All.


Moms, share any tips you have for this Mom-to-Be

Friday, January 10, 2014

THIS MOM CAN reach that top step, "Yes, I did it!'

Welcome Back Moms and  T.G.I.F.

Today is Day six of the 24-Day Challenge and I have stayed completely on track. I wasn't going to weigh myself until Day 11 (after the 10 Day Cleanse), but yesterday, I had to check my weight. So glad I did, because on Day 5, I have lost 4 pounds. I know it is just getting the bad stuff out but I will take it!

One of my goals was to stay accountable during my weight loss journey, and that is probably the thing I struggle the most with.  I walk by the bowl of Hersey Kisses and think, 'Just one won't hurt me.'  But one, turns into two, turns into ...

DETERMINATION will get me to that top step and I will say, "Yes, I did it!"  

For the lucky few, weight loss and staying at an ideal weight comes naturally. For the rest of us, constant accountability is the key to long-term success. I found a great article about staying Accountable for Weight Loss, so this week I am going to share it with anyone else that might be struggling with accountability on your 'New Year, New You' Journey.


10 Ways to Stay Accountable for Weight Loss


1. Make Friends With Your Scale

You might have a love-hate relationship with your bathroom scale — normal daily fluctuations can be maddening when all you want to see is 1 fewer pound. But it can still be a very useful tool, says J. Graham Thomas, PhD, an associate professor at the Miriam Hospital and Brown Medical Center in Providence, R.I., which runs the National Weight Control Registry. In fact, 75 percent of the 10,000 successful dieters enrolled in the registry weigh themselves weekly, and 38 percent do so every day — giving the scale a resounding endorsement for weight-loss maintenance. “Weight creeps up over time, so our members find that this is the best way they can keep track and make immediate corrections in their diet,” Thomas says. 

2. Use A Tape Measure To Stay On Track

A very exacting way to measure success is with a cloth tape measure, says Sue Gebo, RD, assistant professor at the University of Connecticut. By measuring your waistline, hips, bust, and even thighs and calves, you can record tangible progress toward your goal with the kind of detail that a scale can’t give you. Because muscle takes up less volume than fat, you’ll see inches drop, even when there might not be a corresponding change on the scale. It’s very empowering — and encouraging — Gebo says. 

3. Use A Food Diary

“I’m a huge fan of ‘tracking’ when it comes to food because I think it is an excellent tool and is easier than people think,” says dietitian Melissa Dobbins, RD, a spokeswoman for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. She notes that you can list the foods or calories you’re eating, or simply mark an “X” on the calendar for every day you met your daily goal to, say, eat healthier snacks or avoid nighttime eating.
One accountability trick she recommends is to write down what you plan to eat before you eat it, not after. “The power in this is that it really increases your awareness more and makes you think literally twice about a food before you eat it,” she says.

4. Save Your Skinny Jeans

Some people keep a pair of "fat pants" as a tip-off to weight loss that starts to creep back, but this technique isn’t effective for everyone. You might be better off keeping a different pair of pants handy — ones you know you always want to fit into, says Cristina Harder, RD, of the Loyola University Health System in Maywood, Ill. “Some people like to keep a pair of pants that is not far from their goal around so they know when they reach it. As for having a pair of fat pants, I have all my clients get rid of anything like that once they reach their goal so they know that there’s no going back.”

5. Go Steady With Your Diet BFF

Having a 'we're in this together' buddy not only reinforces accountability, but also provides positive weight-loss and weight-maintenance motivation. You can call your buddy if you find yourself wavering, and you won’t be inclined to hit the snooze button and skip your morning walk if your friend is depending on you, too. “You can even get a little competition going, and have one buddy give a reward to the other if they stay on track — just be sure it isn’t a hot fudge sundae,” Gebo suggests.

6. Keep the Big Picture in Mind

Setting a specific goal can be a very effective weight-loss strategy. “One of the most common reasons people come to see me is because they are working towards a goal, like their child is getting married, or they have got a reunion coming up, or they have gotten divorced and they want to start dating again,” notes Daisy Merey, MD, PhD, a bariatric medicine specialist in West Palm Beach, Fla., and author of The Merey Way to Healthy Weight. However, she notes, be careful not to focus so much on a single transitory milestone that your plan falls apart afterwards. “I had one patient who slimmed down because she was going on a cruise, but then she ate like mad on the cruise, and it all came back," Dr. Merey says. Set permanent objectives, too, such as living longer or even feeling more comfortable in your clothes. 

7. Chart Your Fitness Feats

Experts agree that physical activity is key to maintaining weight loss, and one of the best ways to stay on track is to keep a fitness log. It can be as simple as marking an “X” on a calendar on days you exercise — it’s motivating to see a chain of Xs that you won’t want to break. Or opt for a more sophisticated record of accountability, noting each time you do strength training and aerobics. “At the end of the week, I have my clients tally it up," Dobbins says, "and they are usually very encouraged to find they did more exercise than they thought." 

8. There's An App For That

Ever wish you had a drill sergeant who could put you through your exercise paces? You might not be able to afford a personal trainer who pushes you to complete reps, stick to your weight loss diet, and set new goals, but you can have a virtual one, courtesy of one of the hundreds fitness apps available. Dobbins likes MyFitness Pal, Lose It!, and SparkPeople, to name just three. 

9. Push Yourself  With A Pedometer

Walking is one of the easiest exercises around, and with the right motivation you can add to your daily tally. An inexpensive pedometer is a great accountability aid that can prompt you to forge further ahead to reach fitness goals. “We strive for people to get to 10,000 steps a day, which is about five miles,” Harder says. “That may seem like a lot, but if you have a pedometer and you see that you’re at 8,000 steps, you’ll be more inclined to put on your sneakers and head out after dinner for one more walk.” There are even apps that can turn your Smartphone into a pedometer, including a free one from the Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, which is affiliated with the Harvard Medical School. 

10. Create Your Own Rewards Program

Losing weight and maintaining that ideal weight is a JOURNEY, Harder says, so she recommends that her clients set up little rewards along the way to keep them on the right path. “Maybe it’s a size goal, a weight goal, or an inches goal — the trick is to reward yourself along the way," she says. "It’s another way of staying accountable.” It worked for one of her clients who was a bartender and realized that drinking was adding unwanted calories to her diet. Harder says the woman "decided not to drink, so, after a certain number of days, she got a massage or facial or went to see a movie.”


If you have anything that has helped you on your journey that can inspire other Moms, please feel free to share.

      Have a great weekend, Moms!




Sunday, January 5, 2014

My Journey ~ I Choose To Be Me!

I am no expert Blogger and to be honest, I started the THIS MOM CAN (TMC) blog hoping to inspire other Moms to share life stories, achievements or disappointments and encourage Moms along the way. It has started very slowly and I haven't reached a great amount of Moms but doesn't the saying go, 'All Great Things Start Small?'  Over the month of December, I reflected on what I have learned in this short time about websites, blog pages, social media and where I want to go from here.        
Today, I have decided to share with you the one thing that has held me back in so many ways since becoming a Mother: my weight.
I hope that you will follow along with me in my journey and hopefully it will help inspire you if you are on one as well.


Just typing the words and looking at them; my weight! For this Mom, it is something I just don't talk about, but think about every day. As a kid, I didn't have to think about my weight, I was a very active kid and it was just easy.  As I got older, I started my career, got married and had kids. I learned how hard it is to do all the things I need to do and keep a focus on ME! For 20 years, I lost that focus. 


I worked a job where I started my day at 2:00 am and finished around 12:00 pm. I had both of my kids while working at this job and as you Moms know; new Moms are very sleep deprived. I usually got about three hours of sleep at a time. When I slept for five hours, it felt like I had slept for ten. Each year, during my annual doctor exam, he would say, "Everything starts with sleep, you can not function without seven to eight hours every night."  If it was only that simple.  My weight was the last thing on my mind. 


Being a mother is the best thing that every happen to me and the kids inspire each and every day. How can I inspire them? How can I inspire another Mom or anyone for that matter who might be struggling with weight?


Blogging puts it all out there; no hiding and no excuses. This is going to make me accountable in every sense of the word.



On December 31st, I shared with you my three goals for 2014.  Goal #1 starts TODAY, January 5th, 2014.  Be Accountable, Push Myself, and Stay True To Myself!  
Three things, I will live by this year.  

Today, I started the 24 Day Challenge with Advocare.  Last year, I had completed the Challenge twice with great results, lost 22 inches and 35 pounds. But then, the Holidays came. I was busy and didn't work out and definitely didn't watch what I was eating. School Holiday parties, get-togethers with family and friends, shopping and wrapping gifts, and the Holiday food, oh man, The Holiday Food; cookies, fudge and everything you can dream of chocolate.  I maintained my weight for the most part, only putting on five pounds, but I needed to lose a lot more weight. Five pounds seems like fifteen.


This time around, my husband, Ryan is joining me on my 24 day Challenge. We started today and this will be the first time that he has done the Challenge and I am not sure if I am beyond excited or more worried.  We have been married for 16 years and he has been behind me in everything I have tried but this time around, he is walking BESIDE me on my journey. Pushing me along the way and celebrating in every milestone. Will he get better results than me? Will that upset me or motivate me? Only time will tell but let's go with the latter, MOTIVATION! 


I am going to share with you my journey, the many UPS and the several DOWNS. I did not share my goal weight at this point but will along the way. I will post where I found motivation and the struggles I face along the way.  I am going to post pictures, quotes, and inspirational things with my posts.You may love some, you may not, it would mean a lot to me to get any encouraging words from you along the way! I am a self-doubter but in this year of self reflection, I am hoping to overcome it. I will overcome it!   I Choose To Be ME!


Tuesday, December 31, 2013

New Year ... New Me! ... New You?

Do you make New Year's Resolutions? Do you make goals for the New Year?

I gave up making resolutions several years ago. I would have great ideas and tell myself to stick to them, but by the end of January, I had given up on them.  So, why do it? I asked.

The last few years, I have had some real "downs" in my life and not enough "ups" to keep up. As, I sit here on New Year's Eve, I think what can I do different in this New Year? I am ultimately responsible for my life and I CAN make it amazing and fulfilling. Can't I?

So, I decided to set three GOALS (not resolutions) for me for next year. I chose three because I believe in 12 months, that is an obtainable goal.  I wrote down the three goals on different pieces of paper and will share them throughout the year. I am keeping them in a jar, sitting them on the shelf above my kitchen sink so I am reminded of them everyday!

All three are going to be very challenging for me to achieve, but I am going to go out of my comfort zone and push myself.  I will work on all three goals throughout the year but will concentrate on one at a time.

First up, GOAL #1 ... Come back to my blog on January 5th, as I share with TMC followers, my exciting goal with the one thing that I have struggled with.  I am determined, excited and nervous all at the same time to share this with you.  I will blog the many 'Highs' and many 'Lows' of my journey in hopes that it will inspire and encourage other Moms who might be going through the same struggle as I am. 
 
I am doubter, I second guess myself all the time, but pushing toward these goals will help me break away from my self-doubt. This is my year to make things happen! Will it be yours?

Friday, December 6, 2013

Ten Ways THIS MOM CAN Avoid Holiday Anxiety


For this week's blog, I am posting something that many MOMS can relate to during the Holiday Season ... Anxiety!  Please comment at the bottom and share your own unique story of how you cope with the Holidays! Enjoy and I will see everyone next Friday! 


Friday, November 29, 2013

Carmen; "Victorious Mom"


Meet Carmen Casto
 
     I met Carmen in October of 2013, when our husbands, who work together, took us to an Ohio State football game. As we spent several hours cheering on our team, in the end, they were VICTORIOUS! On that day, I realized I had met a mom who truly inspired me. She explained how her life had completely changed in the last year when she returned to work after being a stay-at-home mom for so long.
     She is married and the mother of three children, ages 14, 13, and 11. She told me the most enjoyable thing about being a mom is watching her children grow into compassionate, caring and loving young people. She also stated the most challenging thing is balancing a career and being a mom.
     When I decided to start this blog, she was one of the first Moms that came to mind to share her story with other Moms.
 
Here is Carmen’s story about returning to work after being a stay-at-home mom and learning that her children, her husband and herself will win, in the end!

 I married my high school sweetheart, Aaron in 1997. We had our first child, Aly in 1999; our son Garrett in 2001; and our third child, daughter Annalese in 2002.  Yes, three babies in four years.  Aaron was building his career and worked seven days a week and very long hours.  I had no choice but to stay at home with our small children. It was an extreme blessing to have this time with my children but it also meant putting my own career on hold.  For eleven years, I was a stay-at-home mom. I truly loved being home with my kids but I worried that if anything happened to my husband, I wouldn’t have the means to take care of my children on my own.  So one year ago, I decided to take on a full-time clinical manager position. Although I knew going into it, that it would require a lot of time away from home but my thoughts were that the kids are a little older, so this can't be that hard or could it?
     The question I continued to ask myself was, "How do I give 100% to a career and continue to give 100% to my family?" That has been my biggest challenge since returning to the work. If I am being completely honest to all of you other moms who might be thinking the same thing, I have yet to master that.  When work is going well, I feel like a failure at home.
      Returning to work has not only has been a transition for myself, but for my husband and our children.  The kids were able to call me anytime with something as simple as, “Hey mom, I forgot my lunch, can you bring it to school?"  When I was a stay-at-home mom, that was a simple task, but now that I am working full time, my reply is, “Sorry, I guess you will buy the school lunch.” For my husband, he had to learn his supper was not going to be on the table when he walked in the door.  The house was definitely not picked up like it had been in the past. I asked myself, "Who has time for all of this?"
     Over this last year, everyone in our family has learned to do their part.  My children have become very independent and my husband has learned to cook quite well.
     However, I still have days of extreme guilt.  When the kids are sick and I am unable to stay at home and nurse them back to health, it is extremely hard adjusting to that. Some days, I am so exhausted that I just want some ‘me’ time. It really is a balancing act!
     Somehow it has all worked out over this past last year and will only continue to get better.  My family works well as a team.  I am also lucky to have an amazing family support system that helps when needed.  I definitely would not be successful without each person that I have on my team and for that ... Team Casto will be VICTORIOUS!
"Being a Mom and so much more!"

Friday, November 22, 2013

It All Starts Here ... THIS MOM CAN (TMC)

Welcome Moms to...THIS MOM CAN (CELEBRATE. INSPIRE. ENCOURAGE.)

The first blog and I have to be honest, I have no idea what I am doing so this should be fun! 
   
    For me, being a mom is the most rewarding job I have ever been blessed with.  Being there to watch each stage of my children's lives is amazing, fun and also challenging but let's be honest, there is no magic wand for being the perfect mom.  We all make mistakes in parenting but what makes us better moms is how we teach our children to not make the same mistakes as they grow up.
    My motto...Life is full of ups and downs; it is how I handle each one that makes me a better person.  It makes me a better mom!

Here is my story... of ups and downs and finding my passion later in life.

    Let's start when I was the age of 20, I lost my younger brother in a tragic automobile accident when he was just 17 years of age. He was on his way to meet me and the last words I ever heard him say, "I have to finish my hair, get dressed and I will see you in twenty minutes."  I never got to see or talk to him again. The grief is something that even after 22 years I continue to deal with.
    I married in 1997, had my son in 2000 and my daughter in 2003 and they truly are my motivation every day. They inspire me to wake up each day and make the world better for them to grow up in.  Being a mother in my own words is, "The day your child is born, you surrender a piece of your heart to them and are changed forever."  The biggest "up" in my life is having a family of my own. I told myself I was going to be the best mother I could be and raise these children to be loving and caring adults, this was my passion in life, or was it?  I am encouraged by moms who tell me she is a full time mom and is extremely satisfied with that role.
    I left a 13 year challenging career due to the downsizing of the company I worked for. It was terrifying to think I was going to have to start something new after doing the same thing for so long.  I had several discussions with my husband and told him I was determined to see what else was out there in the world for me.  Leaving the job was a blessing though, I was able to spend the last year of my father's life with him by his side. 
     After my Dad passed away, I took the time as an opportunity to be a stay-at-home mom for 2 years but there was something missing. Something that I needed to be completely fulfilled. So, what now?  Start a new career?
    I thought I would try and be great at something completely out of my comfort zone. I took and passed one of the hardest test I have ever taken and starting selling life insurance. My sister that I was crazy! But I wanted to help people and thought I found my passion again.  I loved working with families and businesses, helping them protect what mattered most in their lives. Educating people on something they may have known very little about was rewarding but what I will always take away from it was the amazing people I met along the way.  My insurance work ended abruptly when the company I worked for didn't have the things I believe most in ... CORE VALUES and HONESTLY!
     My passion was crushed. I am still a terrific mother but the piece of me that craves a passion along with being a mom was missing. I didn't know where to start to find it, once again.
     After doing some mind, body and soul searching, I realized I am a mom first and foremost but my passion was out there just waiting for me to find! I decided this year was my defining moment to change the way I felt about myself.  In February of this year, I decided I to start a life change; first with getting healthy since I had been overweight from the time I had my children and a good friend of mine had lost over 150 pounds and she INSPIRE me to do something for myself!  I started in February with the 24 Day Challenge with AdvoCare and lost 22 pounds and 18 inches! I felt amazing but more then anything I find I was unstoppable in finding my passion
    But what could I do that would bring me the passion I was looking for? I have volunteered for years for several non-profit organizations because of the way I feel when I give back and help others. I thought why can't I do something that could help other people, something simple like encouraging, inspiring and celebrating someone who may need to find their own passion.  
    It was there all along...my PASSION!  Helping others is what makes me passionate! Could it be that simple? For me, it is. I didn't know anything about how to start or what to do first.  I contacted my lifelong best friend and told her of my idea. What she said will remain with me forever, "This is the best idea you have ever come up with (and God knows, you come up with tons of them) and this is your destiny!" 
     She helped me create the logo and I taught myself how to create a website and a blog. My very first blog, my very first accomplishment.
     So, I decided to search the world for other moms who have the same passion as I do to share our amazing stories and achievements.
    This is the exciting new beginning of...THIS MOM CAN!